Developing Emotional Intelligence with TIP competencies and Kindergarten Cop… Arnold Schwarzenegger!

Emotional Intelligence and TIP competencies

The Emotional Intelligence (EQ) has been defined by Daniel Goleman in his best seller “Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ“. Nowadays, Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is a well-known concept both in the everyday life and in the work environment and it has become as much important as Analytical Intelligence (IQ).

Moreover, EQ is even more important for a “finely Attuned” leader in order to develop a Social Intelligence (See Social Intelligence and the Biology of Leadership by D.Goleman & R.Boyatzis – Harvard Business Review) and thus improve the team effectiveness with better decisions, more creative solutions and more productivity (see Building the Emotional Intelligence of Groups by V.Urch Druskat & S.B. Wolff – Harvard Business Review). In the book mentioned above by D. Goleman, there are many useful TIPs for being aware and learn how to deal with emotions such anxiety, sadness, anger, etc.

Few weeks ago I saw two colleagues of mine that were talking and suddenly one of them started to talk louder and faster. The other colleague, who was listening, when perceived such change in the para-verbal communication he suddenly exclaimed: “Please, calm down! Calm down“. In that moment I realized how the non-verbal communication can have an impact (positive or negative) on our emotions (see also the post “A Good Picture for Acceptance: feel the divergences and think how to deal with“). Is it possible to deal positively with our emotions? The Competencies in The International Profiler (TIP), that I discovered during the MBA, might be a powerful tool  in order to learn how to be more Emotional Intelligent. How? Let’s analyze another similar case from the movie Kindergartener Cop with Arnold Schwarzenegger where some competencies of TIP such Attuned, Copying, Resilience and Reflected Awareness with a pinch of New Thinking played a key role in order to succeed with the tougher species that inhabit a typical kindergartener environment: kids! (see the TIP’s competencies here).

Emotional Intelligence case study: the “Kindergartener Cop” A. Schwarzenegger

See the clip here taken from the movie “Kindergartener Cop” with Arnold Schwarzenegger (3 minutes), before reading the analysis.

So, what happened to our Kindergartener Cop Arnold Schwarzenegger? Let’s start from what our hero pronounced before realizing what’s going on in the class: “Don’t worry! Everything is under control!“.

  • Symptom 1:  once our Kindergartener Hero realized that in the class everything was not exactly under control because there were kids that were shouting, screaming, touching and destroying everything he started to show some signs of impatient. Such a shock and stressful situation made him shout in anger:  “Shuuut Uuuup!“. Diagnosis 1: definitely a low Copying for Schwarzenegger since he was not able to handle the stress. Continue reading

Almost everybody knows the fear of the rabbit: do you know also its resilience and focus on goal?

Almost everybody knows the fear of the rabbit: do you know also its resilience and focus on goal?

See also: TIP Competencies by WorldWork

DSC_0513Three years ago I met a rabbit called Minny and what I previously knew about this funny pet was: a rabbit is always scared and worried about predators due to a weak control of its amygdala!

Knowing Minny I’ve discovered that these characteristics are true, but I’ve also realized how a rabbit can be persistently focused on its goal and with a high resilience. How? I will tell you!

Rabbit’s Focus on Goal: you should never let a book, a magazine or a houseplant in the sights of the rabbit’s eyes or nose! Since the rabbit strongly enjoys biting paper, fresh grass and electric cables (be careful!) it will go and bite them overcoming any kind of obstacles.

Rabbit’s Resilience: unfortunately Minny broke her leg. That happens quite often to rabbits due to their light but fragile bones. Despite suffering from her pain Minny is always willing to demonstrate her affection and she never gives up! Now the leg has fully recovered!

Moral n.1: the first impression is important. However why not taking the opportunity to enjoy that you were wrong – knowledge by change!

Moral n.2: the rabbit is a great example of how leveraging weaknesses and strengths in order to survive in this tough world!

Feelink – Feel & Think approach for doing life!